Cock and bull

I suppose I should not be surprised how disgusting people can be, but even at my age, I have the capacity to be surprised by it.

The woman I was involved in the car accident with has invented a story that is not just untrue; it is obviously untrue to anyone who knows me even a little, and equally obviously untrue just on the face of it.

The woman is saying that I reversed into her while she was stationary and that I had road rage and did it again.

With my kids in the back seat of my car, this woman is saying, I purposely ran into her with my fucking kids in the back of my car.

And then, weirdly, got out of my car and yelled at her, what the bloody hell did you do that for?

I mean, fucksake. Let's pretend that I'm the kind of person who gets aggressive towards others, which I am not. (I might mouth off at you but I have not hit anyone in 25 years plus, and then it was in self-defence.) I ram you and then shout at you for doing it? So I'm not just aggressive, I'm insane. No one who knows me would think that I delude myself about anything, let alone that it's someone else's fault that I ram them twice!

I know that the woman is taking advantage of the fact I was angry to invent this story. She knows she did the wrong thing but obviously you cannot tell your insurance that. You cannot tell them that you tried to cut someone off and they hit your car because your claim is turned down flat at that point.

But if that was all there was to it, I would get over it. But it's worse. She has a witness who has the same, who is an offduty copper. I do not know how she got this person to say this but I know it is not true. If I had made a mistake, I would confess to it. It is not my style to blame others for what I've done.

But I did nothing wrong.

And where the hell did she get this copper from? No one approached her at the scene. No one has told the police anything. How does she know there is a witness? How did a witness even contact her insurance people? The insurance people now say that there is nothing in the notes about a statement. It's crazy.

How did the woman get this statement? The insurance company won't say. They say they don't have a statement. I can't speak to the woman who rang me about the case.

She even lied to her insurance about my not wanting to swap details. That's not true. I called her a cunt precisely because she would not write her number down and swap details. I did not have a pen in the car, so I couldn't do anything about it. I was standing in the rain listening to her mouth off at me while she fiddled with her pen.

I thought all I would have to do is go to the police station and make a statement. I would go to court if I had to, and tell the truth. I believe, foolishly, in the truth. I thought that, yeah, I might lose. Maybe the court would find that it was my fault, even though there was nothing I could do. Her story doesn't even make sense though. She claims to have been stationary in traffic and I rammed her. But how come if I rammed her I only hit the very front of her car? How come I didn't hit the car in front of her? Why didn't the driver of the car in front get out to see whether their car was damaged? (The answer, in case you're curious, is that they had moved off, which is why she had tried to get across the gap before I could pull out.) Is she seriously suggesting that the driver of the car that was parked in front of her was not even curious whether they had sustained damage?

And I want to know who this witness is. Who is their kid at the school? Obviously, no kid, no credibility. Can they prove they were in the carpark at the time? Where were they? They would have had to be particularly well placed to have seen it clearly enough to know what happened, not to mention that they would have to have been looking at the right time. It happened quickly. Why didn't this policeman arrest me for criminal damage? Why didn't he come and get my details? I didn't disappear. The woman blocked me from leaving the spot and sat phoning someone for several minutes. Why didn't the policeman approach me? Was he not worried that someone so enraged that he would ram another car might turn violent?

Why did a policeman with a good enough view of the accident to corroborate her story not come forward at the time?

I don't even understand how I am supposed to have done it. In her version of the story, I waited for several minutes in my parking spot, then just said fuck it and reversed into her, where she was sitting stationary, and then became so enraged that she was there that I rammed her again. But why? I often sit in that carpark. I wasn't in any hurry. There's no point; it always takes forever to get out of the carpark.

I am actually really scared that this woman has got someone to ram her car after the fact, to create more damage and make it worse for me. Anyone insane enough to make up the story she has made up could do that. What a nightmare!

What upsets me most of all is that I know I didn't do the wrong thing, but she did. I waited for a space and pulled out when it was clear. I know that is true. I am a cautious driver on the whole, and I am aware of what a nightmare the school carpark is, particularly in heavy rain. I don't drive aggressively, and I don't play chicken with other cars. I am always the chicken. I would never risk injury to my children and the suggestion that I would is truly offensive. I hate the woman more for that suggestion than for what she did in the first place or for any other lie she has told.

But this woman did do the wrong thing. She tried to cut me off when I was backing out. She and I both know that is true. (And it doesn't matter how many off-duty policemen say otherwise: the truth is the truth, and we both know it.) People do this kind of thing. They play chicken, throwing their cars across gaps to stop each other pulling out. I see it all the time. But I didn't see her do it and that's why we crashed. She even confessed it when I got out of the car and asked her why she'd done it. She didn't want to wait.

She didn't want to wait. She risked injuring my children because she didn't want to wait for one more car to get out of the carpark.

Well, I should not be surprised that someone that disgusting would lie and would have found a friend to lie for them, should I?

posted by Dr Zen @ 11:48 am